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Classy Quotes Wednesday–ROBERT HAYDEN

Today I’m harking back to my college days again, since I’m still sorting through boxes of textbooks. Just stumbled upon a poem by Robert Hayden that frequently springs to mind. It truly captures the vast divide between childish vs adult thinking. 
If you’re anything like I was as a teen, you think you know what kind of parent you’ll be. You might be determined to buy only name-brand cereal and not generic (didn’t happen). You might think you’ll let your kids pick up all the stray dogs on the side of the road (also didn’t happen). You might think you’ll never have to spank (definitely didn’t happen). 

The truth is, we have no idea what our parents have gone through by the time we arrive on the scene. We have no idea what kind of sacrifices they have to make for us. Later on, we might realize what a hard time we gave our parents (raising my own hand here). 
This poem is a beautiful tribute to sacrificial parents everywhere. I’ll italicize my favorite lines at the end.
Those Winter Sundays
by: Robert Hayden
Sundays too my father got up early
and put his clothes on in the blueblack cold,
then with cracked hands that ached
from labor in the weekday weather made
banked fires blaze. No one ever thanked him.
I’d wake and hear the cold splintering, breaking.
When the rooms were warm, he’d call,
and slowly I would rise and dress,
fearing the chronic angers of that house,
Speaking indifferently to him,
who had driven out the cold
and polished my good shoes as well. 
What did I know, what did I know
of love’s austere and lonely offices? 
****What about you? Anything you did differently than you’d planned, once you grew up, got married, or became a parent?**** 
 

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Classy Quotes Wednesday// growing up// parenting// poem// Robert Hayden// sacrifice

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  1. Wendy Paine Miller says

    July 25, 2012 at 12:36 pm

    Hmm. Such food for thought this morning.I'm often telling my mom who had four girls, "I never knew. I never knew" as I'm raising three of my own.~ Wendy

  2. Melissa Tagg says

    July 25, 2012 at 1:17 pm

    I'm not a parent yet, but I can honestly say, I want to do everything almost exactly as my parents did. They were and are amazing.

  3. TC Avey says

    July 25, 2012 at 2:22 pm

    So much is different in my life than I had planned- and it's so much better than I had planned.I find myself realizing my parents are smarter than I realized!

  4. Heather Day Gilbert says

    July 25, 2012 at 2:24 pm

    So nice to have you over today, Wendy, Melissa and TC! Yes, my parents were great, and I was blessed w/awesome parents-in-law, as well. So I have lots of good examples to watch as I rear my own children!

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I write contemporary mysteries and Viking historicals. Born and brought up in the mountains of West Virginia, I enjoy writing about small towns, family relationships, and women who aren't afraid to protect those they love. Read More…

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